Don't expect any white person* with any sense at all to respect you if you call yourself and your friends and family "nigger". Saying it with a 'a' at then end instead of an 'er' doesn't help. No calls for "respect" will be heeded in such cases, and frankly, they shouldn't be. No one will respect you if you treat yourself like trash.
* Some whites will say they do. But they've either got no sense (check for drug addiction or other obvious signs that they're not all there), or they're the kind of white people that love blacks in the abstract but live in Whitopias like Portland, Oregon or Vermont.